VIVIENNE'S POST in which she talks about taking her friends son to his school prom, I thought I'd bring you a post on my feelings about proms.
I now the tradition of school PROMS is well established in America and, I'm led to believe, Canada but it's only a recent thing here in England. I certainly didn't have one on leaving school - not that I would have wanted to, the annual Christmas disco was torture enough.
Niece #2 who left school some 5 years ago (Is it really 5 years ago? Now I'm feeling old) did however have a prom and all in all it was an expensive business with her dress alone costing more than my wedding dress. OK so that was almost 24 years ago and, as said Niece informed me, 'in the olden days' but still it's an awful lot of money for a dress that would only be worn once.
And, of course, it wasn't just the dress - it was the shoes, the jewellery, the tiara type thing AND the having to have her hair/nails/make-up done. Then there was the limousine that was hired to take her and her friends to the venue - a castle no less. Oh and I almost forgot, the official photographs. As I said, an expensive business.
Note I wrote 'having to have'. Never before has so much pressure been put on our children to have what their friends have. Niece #1's friends were all buying dresses from a certain shop, all having their hair, nails and make-up done at a certain place and so she, not wanting to stand out, HAD TO HAVE the same.
Now my family aren't particularly wealthy, my sister raised Niece and Nephew (who has learning difficulties) as a single mother so money has always been pretty tight. Imagine then the children for whom money is tighter still, how could they have the luxury of a prom and all it seems to entail?
The answer being, unless they are 'brave' enough (or popular enough) to go, not having all that those around them seem to have, they stay at home which to me seems so unfair. Yes, yes, I know - life is unfair - but it seems to be a hard lesson to learn at what is already a difficult age.
So come on what do my blogger buddies across the pond think having had so much more experience of these things?